Archive for the 'love' Category

Adding crazy

Monday, January 3rd, 2011

Red says:

Life has a way of being crazy.  Even so, sometimes we look around and say, “you know what, I think there isn’t enough crazy here, let’s do something about that,” and then decide to have a baby.

Our first baby is due in about three months, and never would I have guessed how extremely geeky or romantic such an undertaking could prove to be.

First of all, we’ve got all these chemicals going through our brains, making us care more about each other, be more tender toward each other, etc.  I suddenly understand why so many people who get married after knowing each other for a year or two, and then have a baby right away, end up getting divorced after the kids grow up.  First, they have the new relationship energy carrying them, and then they have this biological dependency going, and they don’t have a chance to figure out that they don’t even like each other until all that wears off.  I am so glad Patch and I waited, and let ourselves go through several stages of relationship before adding a kid to the mix, but I am also enjoying this new form of romance.

Second, ZOMG, do you know how much cool geek stuff there is for parents and kids?  My favorite quote from Patch, so far is, “I guess my kid’s too young to make blinky bugs with, since it’s not even born yet.”

Ever since our talks of kids went more from theoretical to reality based, Patch has been working on figuring out which laptop will get a Babybuntu partition.  Sadly, it appears no one has written an official Ubuntu for babies, and with Patch’s schedule, I don’t see him writing one before the kid’s a teenager; but we have been paying attention to other advice on how to involve kids in computer use from day one, though we understand that at at first, “a baby is really just a warm burrito.”

Not to mention how incredibly geeky-cool it is to get ultra-sound images of the developing fetus.  I mean, really!  They do it with sound waves!  Which is about as close as I may ever get to being scanned by a sonic screwdriver.  (Speaking of which: this year’s Dr. Who, Christmas Special, was a spun sugar delight of Moffat-y nonsense that  went down like frosted gingerbread, without the heartburn.  <3 )

What kinds of crazy, romantic geekiness do you have planned for this year?

Stress Soup

Wednesday, October 28th, 2009

Red says:

Patch and I know better than to play competitive games together unless we are both VERY chill.  So most of the time we prefer co-op games, and one of our current favorites is ‘Splosion Man, which is set in a fun world, and has achieved a set of game play challenges which work really well for developing the individual players and the team.

However, the stress levels at our house have reached a point where even a nice, co-op session of ‘Splosion Man can turn into a nasty fight, with lots of deep button pushing.  Le sigh.  Statistics say that a majority of couples break up over money issues, and it’s true, unstable times can make it really hard to find the romance. (more…)

Gamer travel

Tuesday, August 5th, 2008

Red says:

We are planning a weekend long, extended family camping trip.  I was asked if Patch and I would be willing to bring games.  Ha!  The difficulty is usually in convincing Patch that he might need clothes as well.

We’ve solved that problem.  Now I let him put his clothes in my bag, so he doesn’t have to give up room in his

That’s the story anyway.  It gets more complicated when we go somewhere that needs costumes.

Family and Films

Thursday, January 17th, 2008

Patch and I had my mother visit for the holidays this year, and it was wonderful.  We spent lots of time introducing her to Patch’s extended family, playing games, and just spending time together.  I sometimes take it for granted that Patch and I each love and get along with each other’s families, we are so very far from the stereotypical animosity towards mother-in-laws.

My brother, on the other hand, isn’t even allowed to go to his fiancee’s family gatherings, and spends many major holidays home alone.  That makes me very sad, though he has accepted it as the status-quo.

All this ties in to the fact that I watched Knocked Up (the ’07 one, not the ’04) and Juno within a week of each other, and was very struck by both of them, for very different reasons.  The first was absolutely awful; it tried to be real by showing that everyone is impossibly flawed, and the only kind of love that can happen is when two people are so desperate that they will love anyone just so they don’t have to be alone.  The second, however, was utterly charming; it was real about flaws, but allowed each character to find love and happiness in the right way for them, not only despite, but because of their flaws.

I am lucky to live a life where Juno resonated so strongly for me, and I feel sad that Knocked Up resonated with anyone.

Two to Tanga

Tuesday, October 9th, 2007

Red says:

Let me take a brief moment to expound upon the evils of Tanga. (For those of you who have not yet encountered Tanga, it is a Woot-like site, offering a different discounted product each day, but specializing in board games.)

With each day’s item being available for a limited time, and often in limited numbers, it is very easy to get into a shopping frenzy and make purchases without thinking them through. While some of these purchases turn out to be unexpected diamonds, some turn out to be the mud clods one would expect at the prices they are sold for. As the shipping time on Tanga purchases can vary from three to ten days, it is easy to feel as if one’s purchases are much less frequent or regular than they actually are. The bright colors make the whole site feel a bit like a game as well, which only increases the urge to “win” by clicking the “Buy Now” button.

If anyone has a handy program I can install on Patch’s computer to make that “Buy Now” button harder to find, please let me know.


Wednesday, May 2nd, 2007

Red says:

Patch informs me that it is not necessary to break up with him in order to keep my single friends company. Besides, we only just hit the halfway point of our current commitment to each other. /e throws confetti. Yay us. Yay non-traditional relationship commitments. Yay partners who talk you through random crying fits. /e runs out of confetti.

Ahem. You may now return to your regularly scheduled procrastination.

Review: Double Dungeons

Thursday, April 26th, 2007

Platform: Wii (Virtual Console)
Players: 1-2

Consensus: Very little co-op involved, mind numbing on all levels.


Friends and lovers

Thursday, April 26th, 2007

Red says:

Someone once told me that friends were worth more than lovers. In context, she was completely wrong because she was trying to talk me into maintaining a friendship that really wasn’t useful without sex attached. Out of context, however, I think she may have been right. Certainly, I would sooner come to the rescue of my friends before helping out some random guy I slept with.

All this is, of course, diametrically oposed to media concepts of romance which include love at first sight, and less than subtle messages that a lover should somehow mean more than any other person in your life just because you are attracted to each other. The easy answer is that a long term romantic relationship should include elements of friendship and sex; that adding sex to a solid friendship is what makes the connection deeper and somehow more important than a regular friendship. But people are more complicated than that, and relationships are more complicated too. Trust me, adding sex to a friendship does not a deeper connection make.

Midnight clarity

Monday, April 9th, 2007

Red says:

As I was drifting towards sleep last night, and letting my mind wander as it wanted, I slowly realized that Patch was snoring.  I am normally the kind of person who can be kept awake by someone snoring from the other side of a house, (despite being a snorer myself,) but even as I became aware of this snoring, I kept right on drifting toward sleep.  As the purr-like sounds next to me lulled me into oblivion, I had one last conscious thought; this moment is love.

The Tao of Spring

Friday, March 23rd, 2007

Red says:

Most geeks I have met are either super tidy, or mess machines. Patch and I fall in the later catagory. On one hand, this is convenient, as neither of us gets particularly upset with the other when the dishes aren’t done, or the laundry piles start to encroach on the bed. On the other hand, neither of us is apt to enforce a cleaning regime, and the messes can spiral out of control. With Spring upon us, it is time for a massive Spring cleaning.